Stunted ID v2.0 Assessment
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Stunted ID v2.0

Mapping Your Emotional Regression Patterns for Conscious Relationships

Stress Response Inventory

Read each description. Select the ONE that most accurately describes you under stress.

When I Feel Helpless
Shut down completely, can't function. Need immediate rescue/soothing. Overwhelming abandonment fear. Physical collapse (curling up, hiding).
Emotional Age: 0-3 years
When I Want My Way
"Mine!" "No!" "Not fair!" Explosive reactions to delays. All-or-nothing thinking. Demand instant gratification.
Emotional Age: 3-5 years
When No One Does What They Should
Obsessed with rules and fairness. Police everyone's behavior. Rigid right/wrong categories. Seek authority to enforce order.
Emotional Age: 6-8 years
When I'm Not Being Treated Fairly
Silent treatment punishment. Dramatic exits and door-slamming. "Nobody gets me" victim mode. Passive-aggressive retaliation.
Emotional Age: 9-12 years
When I Won't Follow the Rules
"You can't make me" defiance. Oppositional to any guidance. High-risk, rebellious behaviors. Everyone's-against-me mentality.
Emotional Age: 13-17 years
When I'm Faking It Till I Make It
Pretend to have it together. Anxious overcompensation. Seek validation for "adult" choices. Imposter syndrome in relationships.
Emotional Age: 18-25 years

Your Destruction Signature

When you're in your stunted age, what's your go-to destruction pattern?

The Prosecutor
Building a case, collecting evidence, preparing for trial
The Ghost
Withdrawing, disappearing, already mentally gone
The Scorcher
Burning everything, saying unrepairable things
The Historian
Dragging up everything from the past
The Prophet
Predicting doom, "we'll never change"

Adult Development Diagnostic (ADD)

When my partner is upset/angry, I can stay calm:

Almost never (their state pulls me into dysregulation)
Sometimes (depends on the issue/intensity)
Usually (I can self-soothe while they're triggered)

Adult Development Diagnostic (ADD)

I can self-soothe without needing them to change their mood first:

No (I need them calm before I can calm down)
Partially (easier when they're calm, but possible when they're not)
Yes (I regulate myself independently)

Adult Development Diagnostic (ADD)

My emotional state is independent of my partner's emotional state:

No (fused - when they're down, I'm down; anxious → anxious)
Somewhat (affected but not completely merged)
Yes (I can be calm when they're upset, grounded when they're anxious)

Adult Development Diagnostic (ADD)

When I'm triggered, I can recognize I'm in my stunted pattern:

Only afterwards (no awareness during)
Sometimes during (if it's obvious)
Real-time (I catch it as it's happening)

Adult Development Diagnostic (ADD)

When I notice I'm in my stunted pattern, I can shift back to adult:

Rarely (I stay stuck until situation ends)
Sometimes (depends on trigger intensity)
Usually (I can use tools to recover)

Physical Regression Signals

Check all that apply when you're in your stunted age:

Voice gets higher/whiny
Body language becomes smaller/defensive
Facial expressions change dramatically
Breathing becomes shallow/rapid
Hands shake or clench
Want to hide/disappear
Become hyperactive/fidgety
Freeze completely

Emotional Regression Responses

In your stunted age, you typically: (Check top 3)

Demand immediate attention/soothing
Blame everyone else for the problem
Shut down and refuse to engage
Explode with disproportionate anger
Become clingy and desperate
Act recklessly to prove independence
Seek someone else to fix everything
Punish with silence/withdrawal

Get Your Results

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Your Stunted ID v2.0 Report

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Part 1: Stunted Age

Your Primary Stunted Age:
Stress Response Pattern:

Part 2: Destruction Recognition

Your Destruction Pattern:

Part 3: Adult Development Diagnostic (ADD)

ADD Score:
Capacity Level:

Part 4: Trigger Mapping

Physical Regression Signals

Emotional Regression Responses

Part 5: ReAdult Recovery Protocol

Quick Reference Steps

1. PAUSE - Name your pattern out loud

2. BREATHE - Three deep breaths minimum

3. GROUND - Feel your adult body, adult capabilities

4. CHOOSE - One specific adult response

5. ACT - From your chronological age, not your stunted age

Your Personalized Visualization

Part 6: Stunted Edge Revelation

Summary & Next Steps

Your Core Metrics

Stunted Age:
Destruction Pattern:
ADD Score:

Recommended Next Steps

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